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Is Your First Love Important?
#1
Posted 04 August 2008 - 08:43 PM
In my opinion, when you fall in love for the first time, is the point when you start to make an idea of what and how your life partener should be. I think our first love is very important. For example, if he/she is dark haired, all of our parteners will have the same coloured hair. Or, on the contrary, if the relation ends in bad terms, you will say that you never want someone who has dark hair.
Of course that there are also exceptions, but in generally, the idea is the same
What do you think? It happened to you to choose your standards according to your first love?
#2
Posted 16 August 2008 - 02:56 PM
No, usually the first love comes at a young age when you don't even know yourself very well. With time and more experience, standards change, there are great chances that when you reach 24 you won't get along with the person you cared about or, let's say, loved when you were 14.
#3
Posted 16 August 2008 - 07:46 PM
I do agree it's important, but not because of what you said. If you like dark-haired men you will always enjoy a partner who has that hair colour, even if your first love was a dark-haired man/boy and the relationship ended badly. That's a very shallow aspect of a relationship. I believe that people have a pretty good idea of what they like even before their first love. The most important aspect is the psychological one. One's first love is important because it's a big step from childhood to adulthood.
#4
Posted 17 August 2008 - 01:43 PM
Not necessarily. For example, my first love was a pretty serious dude who didn't joke much, I liked that trait even before him, and for a few years I sought guys like that. But I later realized how good it felt to laugh a lot with the person near you, being with a funny guy was far better for me and so this standard changed.
#5
Posted 17 August 2008 - 10:52 PM
Well of course your standards can change, there's no general rule. Especially because most people have their first love at an early age. I know people whose standards have chanced a lot in time. But I also know people who still have the same standards and like the same type of people. So it's all about the person in question, we're all different. But as I said, the only aspect that I believe to be truly important for all is the psychological one.
#7
Posted 15 September 2008 - 01:41 PM
Love love love...bleah
Now, seriously, yes, I agree that first love is very important in one's life. Naturally, every person that you meet can bring some changes to your attitude, mentality and preferences, but in this case, sometimes we can talk about major changes. I, myself, have been in this situation, so I base my theory on experience. The guy changed me a lot, made me become sort of a another person .
And now I know fore sure that I shall never date again long-haired guys . Not because of the fact that he has disappointed me, but I realized that I'm a bit ashamed while walking hand-in-hand with a guy who's hair is longer than mine
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